It can be easy to hide away as a man. To feel the overwhelming burden of needing to prove yourself - to tell the world that this is me and this is what I have achieved. Embrace me. Let me know that I am successful.
To hide away is to choose to not show certain parts of ourselves. Our creative qualities. The soul that yearns to be seen but fears being exposed, thus choosing paralysis over the anxiety that comes from stepping out into the world.
Sadly, many of us have wounded parents and we have struggled to find the role models to properly guide us in what it is to be a man. We stay as boys, waiting for the world to come to us with a solution or fighting so hard to achieve, that we get exhausted in our quest. Rites of passage that involved an element of suffering in order to free ourselves from the weight of dependency and to discover the beautiful and life giving quality of self reliance have all but disappeared. Where is there to turn?
Therapy can be a key starting point. To begin to explore the beliefs that you have inherited about being a man and how they might clash with what you truly feel. To explore how the internalised image of your parents might be binding you. When the shadow within us is brought to the light - that is when true healing can begin. It is then that you can begin to become a parent to yourself. To awaken to your internal mother that nourishes you and keeps you safe. To empower your internal father that helps you to bring your soul's dreams into reality.
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